Attentive Psychotherapy & Counseling Center
Kimberly Schaffer, LLC

908-246-1480

1 Edgeview Drive, Suite 2B
Hackettstown, Warren County 07840
USA

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Attentive Psychotherapy & Counseling Center


COVID-19 Update:  We are here to help you through the uncharted waters of the current national health emergency.  We can help you from the comfort of your own home.  We offer online sessions and are accepting new clients.  Online sessions are conducted over a HIPAA compliant platform.  You can use a computer, tablet, or phone.  Many clients prefer the ease of online sessions.

Anxiety and depression can be debilitating.  You may be feeling overwhelmed, nervous, worried, withdrawn, or lonely.  Sleeping has become an issue.  Your appetite has changed.  Suddenly, you do not enjoy things you used to love.  Something has changed and you are struggling.  Sometimes these changes are easy to identify and other times they are gradual and build-up over time.  You do not have to face this alone.  There comes a time when help is needed from a licensed professional to cope with many of life’s challenges. We are a team of licensed mental health professionals located in Hackettstown, and we are here to support you on your journey toward healing and self-discovery.

 

"We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections."

John Lennon

 

All About Therapy Services

Welcome!  We are so glad you are here.  It takes courage and strength to seek help and you are taking the first step today. You may have been thinking about reaching out for some time now, but it has been difficult. We recognize and appreciate how hard this process is for you. Sometimes it may feel as though you are a volcano with lava bubbling inside and at any moment you are going to erupt.  You are not alone. 


We are here to help.  We believe it is an honor and privilege to have the opportunity to work with clients and help provide the support needed during challenging times. Through challenges we become even stronger. It can be a relief to share your thoughts, feelings, fears, and joys with a professional who is trained in the art of listening and counseling.

Our approach is gentle and kind.  We follow your lead.  This is your ship to sail.  We are along for the ride and to help guide you when you reach choppy waters.  So, let's get started on our journey today!

  

 

Individual Therapy

Quality Individualized Care

"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." - Jon Kabat-Zinn


Therapy is a place where you have the opportunity to express yourself in a confidential setting without judgment.  In life, we all need hope, guidance, and encouragement. We will help you to feel empowered by sharing practical tools and techniques that facilitate positive growth. Therapy can be a healing and life changing experience, which is beneficial for everyone. Call or email us today to schedule your appointment. We return EVERY call and email.

Family Therapy

A Happier, Healthier Family

"Families are the compass that guides us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter." - Brad Henry

In family therapy we work together to communicate and explore our thoughts and feelings.  It is a sacred time where there are no distractions and families can focus on each other.  We work on solving everyday conflicts and discuss stressful events, which impact the entire family.  It is a place where all family members have a voice. 

Clinical Supervision

Here For You

"We think we listen, but rarely do we listen with real understanding and true empathy.  Yet listening of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know." - Carl Rogers


Clinical supervision is provided for those seeking independent licensure in the state of New Jersey.  Ethics, culturally competent practice, self-care, and evidence based practice are the foundation of clinical supervision.  Guidance is provided in a confidential and supportive setting.  This is an exciting time where you learn how to apply everything you learned in books and classes to practice.  


 

Kimberly Schaffer, MSW, LCSW, CCS
Clinical Director & Owner

When it comes to your mental health and overall well-being, it is important to have a knowledgeable professional you can turn to. Over the years, I have provided counseling and psychotherapeutic services to clients throughout New Jersey.  My expertise covers a broad spectrum of mental health services.

Professionally, I am an Ivy League educated and seasoned psychotherapist with over 20 years working with adults, adolescents, and children. I hold a Master of Social Work degree with a Concentration in Direct Practice from the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia, PA (2000) and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology with a Minor in Women's Studies from William Paterson University in Wayne, NJ (1998).


I work with a variety of issues including:  anxiety and panic attacks, depression, grief, young adult transition issues, cancer survivors, divorce, and maternal mental health.  Although I have significant experience working with children, teens, adults, and geriatrics, my practice is primarily focused on working with adults.  I am a LGBQIA and Trans Affirming Therapist.  Overall, I utilize an eclectic approach, as I believe one size does not fit all in therapy.  The foundation of my treatment approach is heavily based in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Humanistic (Person Centered Therapy), Psychodynamic, Structural Family Therapy and Strength Based Therapy. 

 

Clinical Team

Get to Know Us

Luz Villagran, MA, LPC, ACS
Therapist

Children and families need a professional who is understanding, creative, and nurturing.  People of all ages can be extremely vulnerable during therapy and require distinct, specialized care tailored to their life experience. For over 15 years, I have worked with children, adolescents, and adults with various mental health needs. I hold a Master’s degree in Counseling and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology with a Minor in Spanish from Fairleigh Dickinson University. I am proud to have the privilege to serve both English and Spanish speaking communities.


My background as a Nurtured Heart Approach Certified Trainer and practitioner where we focus on a child's positive strengths, has provided a strong foundation for family work. I specialize in working with children and adolescents who have behavioral and emotional needs. During my career, I have employed several techniques including Positive Behavioral Supports, Applied Behavioral Analysis, and DIR Floortime. I am a true believer that in order to help many individuals, an eclectic approach is most beneficial as it provides individualized services.

Maureen Mulvanerton, MA, MSW, LCSW, CCS
Therapist

For over two decades I have provided mental health services to children, adolescents, and adults.  I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and earned a Master’s degree in Clinical Social Work in 2000 and a Master of Arts degree in Psychology in 1993 both from New York University.  I hold a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and Education from Rutgers University (1989). My professional accomplishments include extensive experience providing mental health services to children and adolescents in a school setting, as well as, clinical work with adults, families and with the LGBTQ community.  I have also worked with children and adolescents in foster care, residential placements and schools for the past 20 years. 

I utilize a holistic approach in working with clients, encompassing components of cognitive behavior theory, trauma-informed interventions, positive behavioral supports and solution-focused methods. I believe in the value of the therapeutic relationship and strive to provide a safe environment for clients to feel validated, understood, and more capable of moving forward through life’s challenges. Clinical areas of expertise include depression, anxiety, trauma, loss/grief, parenting, life transitions, relationship issues, school avoidance, LGBTQ community, and learning disabilities.

Kiarra "Kiki" Baldassari, M.Ed, LAC
Associate Therapist

As a Licensed Associate Counselor in the State of New Jersey, I specialize in the treatment of children, adolescents, and adults struggling with anxiety disorders, stress management, sports performance, and depression. My primary methods for addressing presenting concerns are evidence-based practices that promote the improvement of one’s overall functioning in multiple aspects of life including social and personal relationships, school, the workplace, and family dynamics.


I earned my Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and Master of Education degree from Providence College. I  continued my education at Caldwell University and earned a Post-Master’s Counseling degree. During my graduate studies, I had a clinical concentration in Aaron T. Beck’s CBT model, Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) and Family Therapy. I applied my studies to my clinical internships which took place at The Center for Children and Families in Miami, FL. My work focused on providing support and counseling to families and their children with autism spectrum disorders, ADHD, and developmental delays.

Matthew Soriano, MSW, LCSW

Therapist

For over 10 years, I have had the opportunity to provide mental health services to children, adolescents, and families. I hold a Master’s degree in Social Work from Rutgers University and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Sociology from Ithaca College. I have experience working with children, teens, and families in a variety of settings including foster care, residential services, in-home therapy, and schools. I have assisted clients in dealing with depression, anxiety, oppositional behaviors, and trauma. 


I believe in a diverse approach to therapy by determining what works best for each individual client and tailoring our time together to best meet your needs. Some of these techniques include:  trauma-informed care, cognitive behavioral therapy, the Nurtured Heart Approach, and person-centered therapy. I have found that the key to successful therapy is building a trusting relationship and strong alliance between therapist and client.  My goal is to always help you build off of your strengths and experiences to foster growth. Together we can enhance your inner wealth and create the change you want to see. 

 

Featured Guest Post Contributions


Don’t Let Your Single Status Stop You from Having a Happy Valentine’s Day

by Taylor Bennett

February 8, 2018

"Spend Valentine’s Day caring for yourself, as recommended by Licensed Clinical Social Worker Kimberly Schaffer: “Self-love is the purest and healthiest form of love. Valentine’s Day is a time when we can truly show our love for ourselves by doing things we enjoy. There are so many options, whether it be going out for a delicious meal, going to the movies, splurging on something special for yourself, getting a massage, exercising, or reading a good book. Valentine’s Day does not need to center around romantic love. Romantic love only develops when we love ourselves.”

To read the full article click here:

http://thriveworks.com/blog/dont-let-single-status-stop-happy-valentines-day/

7 Nightly Rituals That Can Help Ease Your Anxiety Before Bed

by Carolyn Steber

February 15, 2018

By giving your bedroom a once over each night, you can ensure that it's set up perfectly for an optimal night's sleep, while also signaling to your brain to get ready for bed. "Really take a look at your sleep environment and make it the most comfortable for you," psychotherapist Kimberly Schaffer, MSW, LCSW, CSSW, CCS tells Bustle. Get more pillows, spray a soothing aromatherapy scent like lavender, and turn the temperature down to the optimal sleep temp.

To read the full article click here:

https://www.bustle.com/p/7-nightly-rituals-that-can-help-ease-your-anxiety-before-bed-8168635

5 reasons your friend may have ghosted you, because we know you need closure

by Brianne Hogan

June 22, 2018

It’s not you, it’s them


“It means the friend either does not have the energy, emotional readiness, time, or ability to confront the person they are ghosting,” psychotherapist *Dr. Kimberly Schaffer told HelloGiggles. “They are choosing themselves over the person they ghosted.”

They don't like confrontation


Said *Dr Schaffer, “Most people do not like confrontation, but the ghoster is not able or willing to be assertive and explain why they do not want to continue the relationship. Instead, the ghoster chooses passive-aggressive communication and avoids the person without explaining why. This leaves the person who was ghosted feeling confused and hurt.”


Are you actually an energy vampire?


“The person who is the ghoster may be overwhelmed in their own life,” said *Dr. Schaffer. “They may not have the time or energy to reach out. In that situation, it has to do more with the ghoster than the person being ghosted. On the other hand, if the person being ghosted needs a lot of time or support, it can be energy-draining. The ghoster may have decided they do not have enough energy to give to the relationship. This is a positive for the ghoster, as self-care is extremely important.”


Something else may be going on in their life


According to *Dr. Schaffer, ghosting isn’t always a bad thing. Your friend might feel like they don’t have the energy to communicate their feelings to you because of something else that’s going on in their life.



To read the full article click here:

https://hellogiggles.com/lifestyle/friend-ghosted-you/amp/

*Please note I am not a doctor.  I am a licensed clinical social worker.





How To Talk To Your Family About Your Mental Health — Especially If They Don’t “Get” It

by JR Thorpe

July 12, 2018

GIVE THEM SPACE

Therapist Kimberly Schaffer tells Bustle that removing yourself from the situation can be one of the most important things to do if someone reacts badly to your diagnosis. “Give the relationship some space (for both of you),” she says. “Try to understand [that] they may not know how to help you. Time, space and patience go a long way. Let them know you are available to talk about it when they are ready.”

To read the full article click here:

https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-talk-to-your-family-about-your-mental-health-especially-if-they-dont-get-it-8892731

You dislike your child's friend. When is it OK to step in?

by Danielle Braff

September 5, 2018

It’s a different situation if your child is in potential danger from a friendship. A child’s frontal lobes aren’t fully developed, so they underestimate risks and may think they’re invincible, said Kimberly Schaffer, a licensed clinical social worker in New Jersey.

“If the child continues to engage in the friendship after the parents have discussed their concerns, parents must do whatever they can to end the friendship,” Schaffer said.

To read the full article click here:

https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/parenting/sc-fam-dont-like-childs-friend-0911-story.html

7 Surprising Reasons Your Partner May Be Acting Distant, According To Therapists

by Kristine Fellizar

February 2019

They're An Introvert And Need Alone Time

"Introverts need time alone to recharge their energy level, and as a result, they may become more distant," therapist Kimberly Schaffer, MSW, LCSW, tells Bustle. If this is the case, there's really no reason to worry. Just give your partner the space they need and you should be fine.

To read the full article click here:

https://www.bustle.com/p/7-surprising-reasons-your-partner-may-be-acting-distant-according-to-therapists-15927158

Extroverts May Be Happier Than Introverts

by Tina Arnoldi

Novermber 22, 2019

The type of activity is important because “forcing an introvert to be extroverted may have short term benefits in relation to socialization, however, this type of interaction is difficult to maintain for an extended period,” added Kimberly Schaffer, MSW, LCSW, CCS

To read the full article click here:

https://www.theravive.com/today/post/extroverts-may-be-happier-than-introverts-0003491.aspx

 

Insurance Accepted

Kimberly is in-network with:

  • ACI Specialty Benefits EAP 

  • Aetna 

  • Anthem 

  • Anthem EAP 

  • Beacon 

  • Blue Cross 

  • Blue Shield 

  • BlueCross and BlueShield

  • CareFirst

  • Cigna

  • ComPsych

  • E4Health

  • EmblemHealth

  • GHI EAP

  • Horizon BCBS 

  • Lyra Health

  • Modern Health

  • Morneau Shepell

  • MVP

  • New Directions EAP

  • Optum

  • Oscar

  • Oxford

  • Qualcare

  • Quantum EAP

  • UnitedHealthcare

  • ValueOptions

  • Wellspring EAP

Luz is in-network with:

  • ACI Specialty Benefits EAP

  • Aetna

  • Blue Cross 

  • Blue Shield 

  • BlueCross and BlueShield

  • CareFirst

  • Cigna

  • ComPsych

  • E4Health

  • Horizon BCBS 

  • Modern Health

  • Morneau Shepell

  • New Directions EAP

  • Quantum EAP

  • Wellspring EAP

Maureen is in-network with:

  • ACI Specialty Benefits EAP

  • Blue Cross 

  • Blue Shield 

  • BlueCross and BlueShield

  • CareFirst

  • Cigna

  • ComPsych

  • E4Health

  • Horizon BCBS 

  • Modern Health

  • Morneau Shepell

  • New Directions EAP

  • Quantum EAP

  • Wellspring EAP

Kiarra "Kiki" is in-network with:

  • Modern Health

Matthew is in-network with:

  • ACI Specialty Benefits EAP

  • E4Health

  • New Directions EAP

  • Quantum EAP

  • Wellspring EAP

  • and is currently in the process of credentialing with many other insurances.

Out of Network Benefits - If you do not see your insurance plan listed, as a courtesy we are able to provide a superbill for you to submit to your insurance company.  You pay the session fee directly to your therapist each session and your insurance company reimburses you based on your contract.

Private Self Pay - Some people choose to pay privately for a variety of reasons.  Reasons may include:   more control over session time lengths and frequency of sessions, increased privacy, as the insurance company does not have access to your records or diagnosis, and you can choose the therapist you would like to work with even if your insurance changes.

 

How long does each therapy session take?

Sessions are 45 minutes long.  Occasionally it may be better to go on with a session, rather than stop or postpone work on a particular issue. When this extension is more than 10 minutes, your therapist will tell you, because sessions that are extended beyond 10 minutes will be charged on a prorated basis.  Some insurances will cover extended sessions based on medical necessity criteria.

How long will I be in psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy is unique to the individual and the length of treatment cannot be determined from the outset. Therapy depends on many factors in relation to the individual and to the scope of issues to be addressed.  Successful psychotherapy also depends on maintaining the momentum of the work. Thus, committing to attend regularly set sessions is important. Most clients find weekly sessions the most productive. At times, your therapist may recommend bi-weekly, or twice-a-week sessions are the right pace for you.  This will be discussed during your initial visit and revisited if the recommendation changes.

What is the cost?

If you are using insurance, the cost is dependent upon your policy and may include a co-payment, deductible, or co-insurance.  These fees are determined by your insurance company and are due each session.  Some people do not pay anything.  Others have a small co-payment, while some have a large deductible.  Each policy is different.  It is best to contact your insurance company to verify your benefits prior to the first session. 


If you are utilizing out of network benefits or private self pay, the fee schedule is as follows: 


Standard Services:


Initial Evaluation $200

Individual 45 minute session $150

Family 45 minute session $175

To help meet the needs of the community, we offer services with our provisionally licensed associate therapist at a reduced rate.  Associate therapists are not able to accept most insurances and are under the supervision of Kimberly Schaffer.  Provisionally licensed therapists are licensed in New Jersey and have met all education requirements to practice under the supervision of a certified clinical supervisor.  

Individual/Family 45 minute session with provisionally licensed  associate therapist $50 


Specialized Services:


Clinical Social Work Supervision $100 per hour

Written Reports $250 per hour


Do you offer online therapy sessions?

Yes.  Online sessions are available to those who reside in New Jersey.  You must be physically located in New Jersey during each session due to licensing regulations.  Some insurance companies will cover online sessions.  It is best to call your insurance and ask if your specific policy covers this service.  Online sessions are conducted over a HIPAA compliant platform.

 

Contact Us

We love helping our clients develop the tools they need to cope with all of life’s challenges. Contact us today to learn more and book your session.  Remember we return EVERY call and respond to EVERY message.

1 Edgeview Drive, Suite 2B
Hackettstown, Warren County 07840
USA

908-246-1480

Please be aware that confidentiality with electronic communication cannot be guaranteed. Please send general inquiries only. It is helpful to identify your insurance plan and your availability, so we can ensure we meet your needs.

Please indicate which therapist you are interested in seeing:
 

Employment at Attentive
Psychotherapy & Counseling Center

Minimum requirements include: Master's degree and professional licensure in New Jersey (LCSW, LPC, LMFT, LSW, LAC). Experience with children, adolescents, and couples is desired.

For consideration applicants must:

 

License #44SC05209100
License #37PC00405900
License #44SC05196800
License #37AC00487600
License #44SC05751800