Featured Mental Health Articles
Spending Thanksgiving Solo? Here Are Some Tips To Make It Special
“It can be challenging to spend a holiday alone — we may grieve not having a holiday similar to what we’ve had in the past and may be grieving the holiday we hoped we would have presently,” says Kimberly Schaffer, MSW, LCSW, CSSW, CCS, clinical director and practice owner of Attentive Psychotherapy.
What To Say To Someone Who's Had A Miscarriage
By Kristine Fellizar
Despite these numbers, Jennifer Driscoll, LCSW and licensed therapist, tells Bustle that many women experience “disenfranchised grief” after a miscarriage — meaning grief that’s minimized or unacknowledged by social norms.
How Depression Shows at Different Ages: Childhood to Adolescence
“I think it’s also important to add the school-aged children often get misdiagnosed as having behavioral issues. I’ve seen this happen where the child becomes excluded and shunned by the teachers and then by peers leading to further depressive symptoms.” Sam Levinson
Extroverts May Be Happier Than Introverts
by Tina Arnoldi
The type of activity is important because “forcing an introvert to be extroverted may have short term benefits in relation to socialization, however, this type of interaction is difficult to maintain for an extended period,” added Kimberly Schaffer, MSW, LCSW, CCS.
7 Surprising Reasons Your Partner May Be Acting Distant, According To Therapists
by Kristine Fellizar
They're An Introvert And Need Alone Time
"Introverts need time alone to recharge their energy level, and as a result, they may become more distant," therapist Kimberly Schaffer, MSW, LCSW, tells Bustle. If this is the case, there's really no reason to worry. Just give your partner the space they need and you should be fine.
You dislike your child's friend. When is it OK to step in?
by Danielle Braff
It’s a different situation if your child is in potential danger from a friendship. A child’s frontal lobes aren’t fully developed, so they underestimate risks and may think they’re invincible, said Kimberly Schaffer, a licensed clinical social worker in New Jersey.
“If the child continues to engage in the friendship after the parents have discussed their concerns, parents must do whatever they can to end the friendship,” Schaffer said.
How To Talk To Your Family About Your Mental Health — Especially If They Don’t “Get” It
by JR Thorpe
GIVE THEM SPACE
Therapist Kimberly Schaffer tells Bustle that removing yourself from the situation can be one of the most important things to do if someone reacts badly to your diagnosis. “Give the relationship some space (for both of you),” she says. “Try to understand [that] they may not know how to help you. Time, space and patience go a long way. Let them know you are available to talk about it when they are ready.”
5 reasons your friend may have ghosted you, because we know you need closure
by Brianne Hogan
It’s not you, it’s them
“It means the friend either does not have the energy, emotional readiness, time, or ability to confront the person they are ghosting,” psychotherapist *Dr. Kimberly Schaffer told HelloGiggles. “They are choosing themselves over the person they ghosted.”
They don't like confrontation
Said *Dr Schaffer, “Most people do not like confrontation, but the ghoster is not able or willing to be assertive and explain why they do not want to continue the relationship. Instead, the ghoster chooses passive-aggressive communication and avoids the person without explaining why. This leaves the person who was ghosted feeling confused and hurt.”
Are you actually an energy vampire?
“The person who is the ghoster may be overwhelmed in their own life,” said *Dr. Schaffer. “They may not have the time or energy to reach out. In that situation, it has to do more with the ghoster than the person being ghosted. On the other hand, if the person being ghosted needs a lot of time or support, it can be energy-draining. The ghoster may have decided they do not have enough energy to give to the relationship. This is a positive for the ghoster, as self-care is extremely important.”
Something else may be going on in their life
According to *Dr. Schaffer, ghosting isn’t always a bad thing. Your friend might feel like they don’t have the energy to communicate their feelings to you because of something else that’s going on in their life.
7 Nightly Rituals That Can Help Ease Your Anxiety Before Bed
by Carolyn Steber
By giving your bedroom a once over each night, you can ensure that it's set up perfectly for an optimal night's sleep, while also signaling to your brain to get ready for bed. "Really take a look at your sleep environment and make it the most comfortable for you," psychotherapist Kimberly Schaffer, MSW, LCSW, CSSW, CCS tells Bustle. Get more pillows, spray a soothing aromatherapy scent like lavender, and turn the temperature down to the optimal sleep temp.
Don’t Let Your Single Status Stop You from Having a Happy Valentine’s Day
by Taylor Bennett
"Spend Valentine’s Day caring for yourself, as recommended by Licensed Clinical Social Worker Kimberly Schaffer: “Self-love is the purest and healthiest form of love. Valentine’s Day is a time when we can truly show our love for ourselves by doing things we enjoy. There are so many options, whether it be going out for a delicious meal, going to the movies, splurging on something special for yourself, getting a massage, exercising, or reading a good book. Valentine’s Day does not need to center around romantic love. Romantic love only develops when we love ourselves.”